We all have fears. Even those that seem to be very surefooted might have fears that they're failing to handle. Occasionally these fears lead to pushy behaviors and other times they lead to timidness and lack of assuredness and confidence. A lot of individuals have fears from childhood or adult life that they don't directly recall but which have a massive impact on how they lead their lives day-after-day and on how they make decisions. A few individuals have fears that they're clearly cognizant of but have no idea how to cope with and how to break the negative affect they're having on their lives. Fear has its area in your life but unrestrained fear can lead to a life of sadness, self denigration and unrealized goals and desires. Think of when you were a child and just knew there was a giant milling about at the foot of your bed? How did you master that fear? in all likelihood somebody turned on the lights and remarked that your giant was nothing more than a coat hanging on a chair. Once the lights came on, the giant was no longer dreadful. The same precept applies to overcoming our fear in adulthood. When we view our fear in the light of day, we find out that what we're afraid of isn't so awful after all. Understand however that fear is your foe – no other way to describe it. I‘m not talking about that innate life preserving action along with a major boost of adrenaline that happens if a wild beast is coming at you. I‘m talking about the fears individuals live with daily.
Fear is among the greatest hurdles people face—not only when we are young, but throughout life. In published surveys of many, many people through the years, people were asked to write about the one huge thing about life that scared them the most. In looking at many responses, the same fears popped up time and time again. Read the following list and see how many of these fears you wrestle with: I'M AFRAID OF . . .
Never getting out of debt
Being poor in my old age
Turning a loss
Causing expensive errors
Falling in over my head
Having a hassle with the police
Having ahassle with the Internal Revenue Service
Having a hassle with my spouse/partner
Getting sick or dying with no one left to handle things.
I'M AFRAID I WILL . . .
Get tired of working on myself
Let my fear ruin my family either financially or emotionally
Get swallowed by the fear so I end up as stressed as humanly possible.
I'M AFRAID I WON'T BE ABLE TO . . .
Discipline myself and stay motivated to work on myself
Make the necessary changes
Meet the expectations I've set for myself
Convince other people that what I'm doing is right
In the above list, do you realize the common denominator? Though fear can be expressed in a lot of different ways, what it all comes down to is fear of the unknown. And that's beneficial news, as knowledge is the counterpoison to fear. I once heard somebody on radio state that knowledge equals information times experience, which made me recognize I wasn't portioning out my knowledge with other people, but merely portioning out information to them. Therefore, you are able to use all the information you can find to increase your own knowledge, and once you have that, you'll also have an understanding about what you can or cannot/had better or shouldn't do. Once you take off on a new road of discovery—which is exactly what conquering fear is for most individuals—it's natural to be scared, even scared silly. But that might be good for you in a way. Panic is a great basis for creativity. If fear is the chief thing holding you back from success in your life, ask yourself what's the sorriest thing that could happen if you tried? Failure? Naturally. But failure can be a good experience as it teaches you what not to do the following time.
I sure as shooting have had my own portion of failures. However, only for a short while. Then I started to realize the of import lessons failure had taught me. In retrospect, I ascertained that failure in one area was often a essential step to success in another. Failure doesn't take something out of you; failure builds a lot of essential character and personality qualities into you. You're not more fallible because you fail; you're tougher, stronger, more determined--and much more knowing. As the very act of setting out involves the unknown, most of us have an inclination to shy away from it. Yet we can't make gains as individuals if we don't perpetually explore unknown territory and test our new thoughts and theories. If you have a idea in mind at this time, but are being suppressed for one reason or another, use this time to heighten old skills, learn new ones, and gain an education.
As Ben Franklin put it, "An investment in knowledge pays the best dividends." Conquering fears right now may not be nearly as important in the long run as being able to do it well when the time is correct. Each fresh thing learned will widen your success; each new skill learned and sharpened will increase your overall potential.
Everything you do to evolve your skills and expertise will be like depositing gains in a special savings account. Invest in yourself with knowledge and the understanding of failure! You'll never find a more suitable investment.
....by Matthew (O'Snob)